Thursday, July 31, 2008

Funeral songs...

Mr. Chad-Freebird by Lynyrd Skynyrd
C2-Time of Your Life by Green Day
JD-Go Rest High on that Mountain by Vince Gill
Mr. Clay-Prop me up by the Jukebox when I Die by Joe Diffie
Cassidy-Damaged by Danity Kane (yes, Danity Kane...she is 9.)

Funeral songs have long been a topic of conversation between my "french fry" and I...not sure when and how it came up, but it did, and has remained a topic that stays on our radar. In fact, it has spread to those around us, young and old(er)...LOL.

True, I see each of these songs exactly for these particular people, including Cassidy's (which I will go into later). It would only be appropriate for my dear, sweet husband to have Lynyrd Skynyrd singing the words, "Bye, bye, its been a sweet love. Though this feeling I can't change. But please don't take it badly, 'Cause Lord knows I'm to blame." I almost tear up typing it and when the guitar riff kicks in and you can here the word "cha---yyyayyy...yyyaaaayyyy....nge" reverbing in your mind...ahhh I can see it all...and I can see it just as HE wants it.

C2's is a little different. I think I am suppose to play it on the guitar and sing it...LOL. Funny story here, I do NOT play or sing currently...LOL. I figure if I keep putting off "learning how to" do either, then she can't die yet...LOL...and that's a good thing! However, her Uncle Ernest's funeral could have been the start of this whole thing, not really...most of the credit has to go to Seinfeld...but Ernest had him some Keith Whitley tunes cranked out at the funeral home and it was flat out awesome...well, as awesome as a funeral can be. *side note-family popped open an ice chest full of beer and drank to Ernest 100 feet from his grave...Mr. Chad now has a new vision for his burial day...LOL.

This one is good, too. Mary and I were driving one day and somehow funeral songs came up and she said JD wanted some dorky song that Vince Gill wrote for his brother that committed suicide,(after googling, turns out he started writing it after Keith Whitley's death and later finished it after his brother's) and before she could say the name of it...I knew it. I did not know the story behind it, but my goodness, it is one of the most perfect funeral songs ever written..."Go rest high on that mountain--Son, you work on earth is done--Go to heaven a shoutin'--Love for the Father and the Son." Rarely, do I think Mary is wrong, but on this, I am 100% behind JD.

I would like to think that this song was a joke...but you have to know Mr. Clay to understand that he probably said, in jest, that this was to be his funeral song, but if you know Mr. Clay then you also know how perfect this song is for him. "Just let my headstone be a neon sign/Let it burn in mem'ry of all of my good times/Fix me up with a mannequin, just remember I like blondes/I'll be the life of the party even when I'm dead and gone." I can almost see all of us caroling along with Joe Diffie in remembrance of him, maybe even toasting him with a Red Bull and Vodka.

I'll close with Cassidy's thoughts on her funeral song. She heard us talking one day and said that she wanted Danity Kane's Damaged, as hers...I thought I would crack up, but then I listened to her logic and smiled sweetly instead... "Ms. Christy, it talks about a hole in your heart and how are you going to fix it?...if you are dead then your heart can't be fixed" true, thought provoking and deep for a 9 year old...LOL...

"Do, Do you got a first aid kit handy?-- Do, Do you know how to patch up a wound? --Tell me,-- Are Are Are Are you,-- Are you patient, Understanding? --Cuz I might need some time to clear the hole in my heart ... ... ... Damaged, Damaged Damaged, Damaged--I thought that I should let you know --That my heart is Damaged, Damaged So Damaged, (So Damaged) --And you can blame the one before...So how you gonna fix it, fix it, fix it?"

Hey, is kind of catchy...and very literal...LOL.
Kinda deep today, huh?
Mrs. B


Mary&andJD Allen said...

Christy, I think your are " adding things" to make the blog more interesting lol I never said the song was dorky. I grew up with Vince Gill and I love the song. It is one of the best songs ever, I just think about the lyrics behind the song, and see them as being geared toward someone who had alot of pain, and took like life to escape the pain. Hence " I know your life
On earth was troubled
And only you could know the pain
You werent afraid to face the devil
You were no stranger to the rain"
I would be super sad at JD's funeral, if his message to the world was that his life was troubled..... If his life with me remains trouble, I am not doing my part to make him happy? ya know? I love the danity cane song, I might have that at mine, or Metro Station hehe. If you something country, try "When I Get Where I'm Going", by umm Brad Pasley. Kind of depressing, but seems to fit into your genre for depressing funeral songs lol Enoigh of this, my books are calling my name ever so sweetly.

christy b., that's me! said...

you TOTALLY said it was "dorky"...LOL

Anonymous said...

i want my wedding song to be chosen by christopher arnold, because i'll probably die first. and also, he has a better choice selection of music.

Anonymous said...

From Fred - I tend to overanalyze but where is joy? Marriage is compromise. Compromise means give and take not change who you are. You marry because you believe you have found someone who can help you be the best you can be and you can do the same for him or her. You are and always have been spirited and bit of a mustang that runs free. You can share you pasture but don't allow yourself to be corralied.